Answering Your Partner’s Questions about Relocating
By Mark Swartz
Monster Contributing Writer
Relocating for work can be daunting. So much to plan for, so many changes. When you have a spouse or partner who’ll be moving with you, their world will alter too.
That’s an extra dimension to handle sensitively. Trailing partners have concerns of their own. They may be giving up their job, local friends, family and support communities. That’s a lot to ask of someone.
Supporting each other throughout the transition will enhance the odds of making it. This article will help you answer essential questions they are likely to ask.
Will They Be Able To Find Another Job?
You’re the one who’s moving because a better opportunity has presented itself. If your partner has to resign their current employment, but needs to find a new job where you’re moving, that could cause sleepless nights.
You can offer to assist, if possible, in their work search. As part of the relocation negotiation with your employer, ask if they’ll pay for a career coach to guide your partner’s efforts. Will your company recommend your partner to recruiters in the new city? And see if you can set up interviews for your partner within your existing company where you’re headed.
Will They Ever Get To See You?
When you start a new job there’ll be a learning curve. You may have to prove yourself to unfamiliar colleagues and managers. That could require longer hours and attending after-work events.
Meanwhile your partner might be hankering to be with you, especially since you’re in a new location where you may not know people. Or they may need you at home to aid with the children.
Schedule your time relentlessly. Book time together and with family. Impress on your new boss in advance that your move will necessitate keeping your partner/family involved. As well, bring your loved one to company events (e.g. softball league, dinners) where possible.
Will They Get To See The Left-Behinds?
A relocation means that relatives and friends you’re used to being with are now a distance away. If these are people you want to keep close, arrangements should be made.
This goes beyond having a favourable long-distance plan. An occasional visit back home might be just the ticket. Plus you could have a liberal policy on having visitors stay over at your place. Agree upfront on what constitutes a pleasant duration of stay.
Will They Feel Isolated?
You are about to embark on a new phase of your career. It will expose you to different co-workers and challenging situations. But will your partner feel disconnected?
Show them how they can get engaged in the new community even if they won’t be working. Pursuing hobbies or interests; volunteering part or full-time; joining and attending meetings of trade associations. There’ll be plenty of ways to meet people and be meaningfully connected.
Will The Two Of You Ever Be Able To Move Back Home?
One fear of a trailing partner is of being uprooted interminably. The thought of living away too long from their hometown might be overwhelming.
Before accepting a transfer or non-local job offer, talk about how long this move could last. Maybe it would be for a fixed period, say three to four years. Otherwise keep the door open to moving back home at some agreed point in the future.
You and your partner may relocate abroad, or move to one of the 5 Best Canadian Cities for Millennials. In any case it’s a major schlep. Beyond the basic logistics each person’s personal needs should be met.
Your spouse or partner may initially resist the change. It’s understandable given the upheavals involved. So pave the way for a smoother journey by addressing their concerns. You’ll need each other to navigate the stresses – and celebrate the excitement – of leaving behind the familiar.